I will now confess to the stupidest thing I've ever done in my whole life. First of all, I must say, I haven't done a lot of stupid things. Not even slightly dumb. I'm a pretty well put together guy. But oh boy, did I ever blow it. Here's what happened. I was married for 10 years. I got tired, I confess, of having sex with my wife because she gained weight. Having sex with a big woman is like having sex with a whale. Although I never told her the reason I rarely had sex with her, it was pretty much assumed it was because of her weight. But, she always wanted to have sex, because, like most 40-something women, she's mad horny all the time. So, I suggested to her that she find a lover. I mean, why not? We love each other, have a very stable life, great history, and I trust her not to let it carried away. Besides, once in a blue moon when we'd talk about our deepest sexual fantasies, the multiple-partner or sex-with-a-stranger thing would be at the top of her list. So I figured, why not! It'll make her happy, and she'll stop asking me for sex. The rule was simple: find a guy, do him, and be done with it. It would last only a week, once or twice meeting, no more. Welp, she found a guy. And they did the wild thing. I really felt jelous, too, and bad, but I didn't say anything, since it was at least 50% my idea. But, it was over, she came home, mostly happy, told me alllll about it, in detail, and I was happy to hear she had a great fling. Done, right? Wrong. She said she really liked him and wanted to do it once more with him. I said, okay, one last time. She met him at night and they stayed in a motel for 3 days. 3 days! Her mom was freaked that she was missing in action, and I was freaked too. But she kept in contact and I knew she was safe. Well, she came home acting a little strange. She didn't talk to me much about the details this time. She acted a little distant. I asked her if she was okay, and she said yes, and went about her normal routine, but pretty much stayed clear of me. The next night, she came into the bedroom and layed next to me and told me she had a good time with him, and that she in fact wanted to see more of him. I explained to her how that can get out of hand, and that it quite possibly was already out of hand. She said she would be okay, and insisted on seeing him more. Like, every weekend. I objected. The next day she told me she had another emeting set up with him. I reminded her that she is a wife, and a mother, and has work and all kinds of things. She told me, in short, that she loved him. The next day or so, she started becoming even more distant and then, told me she wanted a divorce. This really happened. Exactly like I say here. I was just destroyed. Devistated. I never in a billion years would have thought this would happen. I want to be clear about something. I love her still, and did then, so much, that I didn't mind her having a fling with some internet hottie. After all, she's in her late 40's and she's only had a few experiences with men, but she dreams the stuff. I know a lot of people will say I didn't love her, but the fact is quite to the contrary. I loved her very much.and still do. I loved her enough to want her to have that experience. But anyway, we divorced. I didn't fight about it. I let her have the house, outright, because I do love her. I let her have all the major financial instruments, too. I don't have to pay child support. I confess it was the biggest mistake of my life. What happened to the internet hottie? Turns out he was a drunk and he wanted to see her again, as they agreed, but she started to see that he drank all the time, and was difficult to understand. In less than 2 weeks after I left the home, he was diagnosed with liver cancer. Word is, he has died. This is absolutely the truth. Then she got another boyfriend and moved him in. He lasted 6 months and left without telling her while she was at church ;) Oopsie! He hasn't been back. If you have ever considered an affair, do not let your spouce know about it. I do not condone them in the first place, without fully discussing it, but still, it's probably going to eventually cost you your marriage. It sets the seeds. If you're going to cheat, ladies, or men, do it in top secret mode. Don't leave your man because of sex with a boy toy. Terry Confess ID: 51c6nip0        Posted On: 26-Nov-2008